How To Argue
A pile of dirty dishes, leaving the toilet seat up and coming home drunk from the pub are just some of the scenarios that can spark blazing rows up and down the country.
In order to help couples squabble more successfully, leading lawyer Jonathan Herring has penned a book called How To Argue.
In his entertaining, no-holds-barred guide, the Oxford-based professor reveals everything Brits need to know about bickering and tips on how to emerge triumphant.
Before bumping heads with a loved one, Jonathan says it’s vital to fully think through what it is you want to say.
’Make sure you know the essential points you want to make,’ he said. ‘Before starting an argument think carefully about what it is you are arguing about and what it is you want. This may sound obvious. But it’s critically important.’
After considering the strengths and weaknesses of your points, Jonathan says the timing and location of your quarrel is crucial.
‘Think carefully before you start to argue: is this the time; is this the place?’ he said.
Many people lose arguments because they get caught up in the heat of the moment and don’t fully listen to what it is the other person is saying.
To be victorious in a feud, Jonathan says you should let the other person do most of the talking.
‘It sounds silly, but you should aim to listen for 75 per cent of the argument and only speak for 25 per cent of it,’ he said. ‘If you listen intently you’ll be able to beat their line of argument more easily.’
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